Simultaneous Oh!

Do other married people earn points in their marriage? (Ooooh, after my title, that sounds really bad! O.O ) My husband and I occasionally use the phrase, "Oh, you earned husband points .." for buying dark chocolate or "Do I get wife points for that?" when I have more socks clean just when he runs out. A good parenting move (diffusing a fight at just the right moment, etc.) also is said to earn "Daddy points" or "Mommy points."

Saturday, just after we'd put the kids to bed, Spitz came up behind me and announced, "You got serious wife points today!"

At first I had no idea what he was talking about. He had just been the one putting the older two girls to bed, and I couldn't think of what on earth I'd done.... Then he reminded me of the conversation I'd had with his mother at dinner. "You said 'simultaneous orgasm' to my mother; and I kind of trapped you into it!!"

I'm reading a Christian marriage book called Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. I borrowed it from a friend who bought a whole stack of books at a weekend marriage enrichment getaway. It's been written by a psychiatrist and family counselor and has some very interesting real-life stories of misconceptions about sex and common issues married couples have. Yada, yada, yada; this is not a racy kind of book at all. I was reading a list of common problems out of the book aloud to Spitz and one was talking about a false expectation a particular couple got from their premarital counseling that screwed them up (that's a technical term, of course) for years. My mother-in-law is an ordained Disciples of Christ minister and mentioned that she was meeting someone for premarital counseling.

Spitz made some crack about being careful about what she told them about sex.... I can't even remember how it happened exactly, but all of a sudden, I was stuck telling my mother-in-law that some example couple in a book had gotten the inaccurate impression from their pastor that sex "should" involve simultaneous orgasm.

But, I admit, I could not bring myself to look at her when I said it. I probably lost a few points for that. (-;